When Is It OK To Objectify Women?


Americans can’t decide whether objectifying women turns them on or disgusts them.

Donald Trump is once again all over the news for more inappropriate comments, said to be “objectifying women.” I watch Hillary Clinton’s TV ad, asking if this is the president we want for our daughters and while I’m not yet a mother, it makes me cringe.

The latest tapes of hot mic dirty talk that have surfaced really aren’t anything new. I don’t agree with or excuse his comments, I just don’t see how they’re any different than the comments he’s said in the past. Why is this time suddenly everyone’s last straw? At this point, we all know who he is – either you’re a fan, or you’re not. But that’s beside the point. As I was reading over Trump’s latest comments, one line in particular caught my eye:

“And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything,” said Trump.

Hm. Kind of like Christian Grey, the powerful billionaire businessman from 50 Shades of Grey – that kind of star? Disclaimer – I haven’t read the best-selling book, but from what I’ve read online, I know all I need to know. Here’s the big picture: this powerful businessman has a woman sign on to be his sexual submissive. The story follows their sexcapades and “relationship” (if that’s what you want to call it). What exactly is a sexual submissive? The contract Mr. Grey requires this woman to sign gives us a definition:

15.13 The Submissive accepts the Dominant as her master, with the understanding that she is now the property of the Dominant, to be dealt with as the Dominant pleases during the Term generally but specifically during the Allotted Times and any additional agreed allotted times.

Does that sound at all like Mr. Grey is treating this woman as an “instrument of sexual pleasure”? Seems to me this is the definition of objectifying women. GASP.

I have friends that have read the book and have read plenty of reviews online that this book leaves women “sexually charged” (warning: graphic content). So reading about a “relationship” in which a powerful businessman treats a woman as his own personal sex slave leaves America “sexually charged,” but Trump’s comment “Grab them by the p---y” is appalling? What am I missing?

Yes, I realize Mr. Grey isn’t running for president, so you can say that this type of language isn’t appropriate for a presidential candidate (I agree with you!). However, take the POTUS factor out and what remains is the fact that both Mr. Grey and Trump are objectifying women – with very different responses.

So when is it OK to objectify women? In my conservative feminist (yes, we exist) opinion - never. But it seems there’s a double standard. You can’t have it both ways, America. Which one is it?

-The Petite Patriot

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